I got a new job with US Bank Home Mortgage and I start there on July 21! Super excited to be on the other side of real estate where I am not originating loans. I am anxious to start because until that first day, I am thinking it might be a dream. Mitch is happy for me and he tries to show me how happy he is. I KNOW he supports me and is very proud of me, but there is that tiny bothersome feeling that the wife got a "better" job. Better as in more pay. Processing mortgages is not something he wants to do, so it's not like he would have wanted the position. So there's a part of me that feels sad for my husband because I know it bothers him. I actually would have been about as happy, maybe even more, if he got a job offer for something he would really love to do and pays better. Is this what marriage is? Me wanting good things for him vs myself? He really likes his company though and the branch he works for. I think he just wants to move on to something that he feels he would be better at. If you ask the branch, I doubt any of them would say he's not good at his job, but he wants to be the best. Of course.
Sadly, there is also the chance that I may have to say goodbye, at least for a few years, to my sister and my brother in law. My sister still hasn't received her work permit that would allow her to work in the U.S. for about a year after graduation. My brother in law is in school, but doesn't have a graduate assistantship yet, which would put the whole burden of the tuition on them. Since we don't qualify for federal loans, it just becomes impossible. So, an option that is starting to sound more and more reasonable is for them to go to Sri Lanka until I am in a position to sponsor my sister. I so wish they didn't have to go. They both work and are not on welfare. Have never been. It annoys me that sometimes it's easier to be illegal immigrants than to do things by the book. I don't want my sister and brother to leave. I don't know why I am being asked for so much additional information to take conditions off of my permanent residency when Mitch and I have 0 red flags to worry about. I wish I had a way to keep sister here. I wish immigration wasn't so difficult for those who actually contribute to the society and abide by the rules that have been set.